Friday, February 27, 2009

...The Tough Gets Going !

Are we women weak? No..we are not. We are only weak if we let ourselves to be weak (a.k.a sengaja cari penyakit!).


My mom is one tough woman. Being a single mom at the age of 28, nothing has ever stopped her from moving on. Her priority, of course, her children (me and my older bro). Yes, I’ve seen her cry, I’ve seen her feeling down, but she never wanted for her children to know. Imagine having 2 kids, with her salary…(she’s a government servant and it’s the 70s). And she is the oldest of 10 siblings.


I’m sure she wanted to remarry or needed man in her life. She was not even in her 30s…however, her kids were the most important to her. Remarrying means having a new family and she didn’t want us to be neglected (because you’ll never know…will the new man in her life accept us or love us like his own?). Yes, words alone are not enough for her and she just didn’t want to take any chances….


When it comes to our education, she will never compromise. I still remember when my primary 1 text book loan was on hold for some reasons. And she said “Ish, kalau susah sangat..Mama beli aje nanti…”. And from then onwards, I did not rely on government supplied text books loan until I finished school. Then, there's the tuition fees, pocket money etc etc...She has to do it and think about everything .. alone...


When my friends walked or bicycled to school, I went by bus. I was in my primary school years and my mom was worried about my safety. I was home alone since Standard 3. She had no choice but reminded me to lock the door and never talked to strangers. I was lucky, back then the criminal rates were not as high as these days. She made sure that her children will never know of her hardship. I really respect her for this.


Although my brother stayed with my grandparents, but financially he was my mom’s responsibility. He went to MRSM after Penilaian Drj 5 (now, it’s UPSR). I’ll never forget when mom and I took the night train from Ipoh and reached Seberang Prai early in the morning, then took the taxi to Kulim. Just to send him pocket money. Then, after few minutes with him, we headed back to Ipoh. Just the two of us.


She sacrificed a lot not only for us but also for her family. I can go on and on about her but one thing I know my mom is one Iron Lady! Although I was raised single-handedly but I’m grateful that my life was far better off than some children with both parents.


See, we women can do it. When the going gets tough, one tough woman gets going!!!


And to my mom......Thank you....for everything.....




5 comments:

KC said...

Subhanallah...the 'WOMAN' in our life,our mothers.

Af-Fatihah to our mothers (Al Fatihah bukan saja untuk yg sudah pergi). Semoga ibu-ibu kita sentiasa dalam rahmat, hidayah dan inayah Allah SWT.

Reading your article made me wanna cry and I can't help but thank Allah SWT each time that my mom is just a-10-minutes drive away from me...
Hugzzz

Kak Z said...

Wpun aku jauh..tapi x pernah lupa my mom...giler le kalau aku lupa. I stayed with her from day one of my life. Dah kawin baru pisah. Abang aku tak rapat sgt dengan dia...sebab Opah jaga.
Ish, banyak le Chek..if I want to jot down all her sacrifices...tapi dia memang kuat...ish, kalau aku dah pengsan dengan macam-macam cabaran...Tapi aku sorang nampak dengan mata kepala sendiri kesusahan dia...

Suzlynna said...

agree with chek & syukur kepada Allah kerana at this age I'm still proud to say that I'll go to my mom's house every saturday to lepak with my children.

I think among my siblings I'm the hardest child to raise due to my athma problem and very "manja". I remember my mom has to stay outside my classroom when I was in std 1 for 6 months. Kejam nye I. I always pray that my children will not become like me otherwise I have to quit my job!

I seldom call my mom coz she has hearing problem (insyallah she'll be 79 in dec this year).

KC said...

Zara,
No, this is not about kita akan lupa pada our parents bila kita jauh. That's not what I meant.

My point is I don't know if I'll be as strong as you and the others who stay away miles and miles apart from their parents'. I've never been away from them - besides when we were in J.O, tu pun every weekend balik rumah! I think I cry my eyeballs out kalau aku duduk jauh dari depa!!

Dekat atau jauh, yang paling penting aku rasa doa kita anak2 yang berterusan to our parents. And don't forget to call them (which I know of course you do).

"Ya Allah ya Tuhan kami, ampunkanlah dosa2 kedua ibubapa kami, kasihilah mereka sebagaimana mereka mengasihi kami sewaktu kami kecil, dan jauhkan lah mereka dari seksa azab api neraka..Amin ya rabbal alamin..."

Kak Z said...

Yes, Chek I know what u meant. Tapi saje je aku nak btau..wpun jauh ..smpai ke USA ari tu pun, still aku ingat kat mak...esp bila lonely ke..uhuks!

Memang aku doakan both my parents everyday..and aku rasa Allah lindungi dia org sebab wpun mak aku tak sihat, duduk sorang2..tapi she still can manage herself well..Aku je yg ter guilty sebab x dpt jaga dia. I told her, I want to quit my job and jaga dia..Dia tak bagi...