2009 Already??

Hmm...it's been quite sometime since I last logged in...

With the opening of the school year, my children's school fees, books, other related to Back to School nesecessities to take care of...I didn't even realize that it's the end of year 2008 until yesterday!! Johor does not recognize 1st January as a public holiday, only my company let us enjoy the 1st day of new year under "Company Holiday"..So, today is the best time to go to the bank, post office etc.

With the economic downturn which is expected to hit Malaysia badly this year, I have to be ready for the outcome. My company has already started reducing overtime for staff and it's not surprising if there'll be staff retrenchment. I can be one of them. Just have to be ready. I read in the newspapers that many companies are laying off upto 3,000 workers this year...Some companies are already slowing down productions....

.... in Malaysia....

The first quarter of this year will be most affected. What a way to start the year, huh?

...global recession ...

Luckily, I don't have many loans or debts to deal with. Only my Kembara is on monthly payment. I have already settled my credit card 'outstanding balance' last year and cut it off into two - and cut it out of my life! Haha...That was a great "achievement"!

So now, one of my new resolutions is ... saving more! More cash in hand can be a life saver! Believe me, to hang on for at least 3 months, jobless...these cash help - a lot!

So guys, start spending wisely (which also means that I have to detach myself from the Munawarrah bandwagon......for now....arghhhhh!!! sigh!) and save more. Someone told me not to apply for personal loans or any other kind of loans at the moment......because...you'll never know....

All the best to us and May Allah SWT guide us in these difficult times...Aminnn...

The Song That Made Me Smile....

It's been a while since I listened to this song. I used to like it so much.

While waiting for the roti canai this morning,which took about 20 minutes ...the song was on air...and it made me smile, again....hehe....

Getting a bigger MPV

We are thinking of getting a bigger MPV. Believe me, we have to have a bigger MPV......


With 3 adults and 3 children (oh, by the way, Khaleeda is almost my height at 12 years old!)...we need to sell off the Avanza and get a bigger vehicle..!


Going back to Ipoh with 6 people plus 6 luggage.. and there are other unnecessary but "we'll-bring-it-along anyway" baggage ....it can be a longggggggg journey.

Traveling 600 miles can be a dragging, body and ear- aching experience when my children starts to fight for bigger space...("tepi lah sikit!"..."sempit la, woi!")

But we have to live within our budget. Toyota Innova is the best choice.

Yeah, who wouldn't want a brand new Honda Odyssey or a brand new Toyota Estima? With three kids still in school and other more important necessities to think of, I don't mind the 2nd hand MPV as long as it serves the purpose...!

The interior

After surveying, calculating and "soul-searching" which is more like (betul ke nak tukar ni, betul nih??Why do we need a bigger car? Is it really necessary)...we found this 2005 Toyota Innova G Spec. at the last used car dealer we went to...(gosh! we spent the whole of Sat 20 Dec. car searching from one used car dealer to another...!..It was soooooo tiring!)

I think this is good enough..... for now...!

Living Alone??

Can I live alone?

Now that my older children are in Ipoh for the school holidays and it's the semester break for Polytechnic students (we live in a warden quarters of girls hostels)….it seems too quiet around the house. When they’re around they fight with each other, got into each other’s nerves and I sometimes have to use my highest vocal pitch to stop them!

My house - so quiet and empty

View from the balcony

It’s kinda weird and the house seems empty. Even Haqimi can’t stand the quietness…! He’ll just whine, whine and whine ….. He misses his siblings who are always picking on him…playing with him, kissing him, hugging him…

Empty rooms at Infotech 2 - Gone for the semester break!(View from our entrance door)

My mom has been living alone for years…(since I left for ITM). And now she told me she’s used to the loneliness and whenever we come back for the holidays, she’ll get nervous and tense to see children running around, the crying, the house wrecking…!

I sometimes wonder what if I’m left alone in my older days. Will I be okay like my mom or I’d choose to stay with my children…?My mom was restless on her 3rd day visiting us...(she's worried about her orchids, her plants, her unsettled utility bills, her doctor's appointment...these are classic examples of reasons to go back to her house - fast!).

Hmm...I guess we'll get use to anything if it's not a choice. Just live with it ...

Oh, well.. Whatever it is, I want to enjoy the moment when my children are still around (eventhough they can cause major headache sometimes!) and remind myself let the future be the future…there’s no point cracking your head thinking about it..!

How time flies...

I was browsing the Picture Folder in my computer and found two baby photos of my daughter Khaleeda and my youngest, Hakimi.

It’s just amazing to send them grow…physically, mentally…and can’t wait to see them as adults, Insyaallah…

Haqimi - Chubby 4 months baby

Haqimi - Cheeky at 2 yrs old

Khaleeda - 1 year old

Khaleeda 12 yrs old

I asked my children what they want to be when they grow up:

Haziq (15) – “Ntah”

Khaleeda (12) – “Cikgu atau pensyarah”

Hafizy (10) – “Chef”

Haqimi (2) – he fluently replied “keje Poli”..

A Gloomy Sunday

Sunday 14th Dec 2008

It rained from dawn till late afternoon. It was a gloomy yet cool day. Since my husband was attending a course in Politechnik Johor Bahru (just 5 mins. from our house!), I took Kimi to McD for lunch....

For dinner I prepared something 'different'...favourites of my husband and me!!

Gulai masam tempoyak ikan patin (others may call it differently), but I got the recipe from an opah in Kuala Kangsar, Perak. No onions involved. But the tempoyak (mmm...yummy) is the main ingredient! Just boiled everything (the blended red chilli, crused fresh tumeric or tumeric powder, the tempoyak and some crushed lemon grass). Add salt and sugar to taste....slurrrpppp...! It's like a spicy, hot soup eaten in a rainy day...what more can you ask for..!

Then, there's the peria kecil ..my husband wanted to eat them raw, I just couldn't!! So, I made two versions - peria goreng bercili dengan telur....and the raw one...

Additional dish - Ikan bilis dan jering goreng bercili...(NSembilan dish...)!

That's it!

Goodbye 2008

It’s been a good year for me both personal and career wise. My company did a salary revision for certain group of employees and I was one of them..Alhamdullilah..It helps a lot..With 4 children…3 of them are still in school (and not to mention the needs of teenagers!)…the extra income give me more spending power!!!

And after almost 2 years “bossless” (2 of my previous bosses resigned or left this company - not even a year of service)…I got a new boss in February 08. As expected, he is more soft spoken than I am ..haha! (this is what we call…balance…to create a “colourful” working environment, huh?)

If 2007 was a ‘tough’ year for me, 2008 has been an ‘easier’ one…I managed to learn more about my self, alert of other’s needs and realize that things happened for a reason. One thing I know for sure, your inner strength will emerge in time of needs…I don’t even know I had it until….(well, it’s in the past…so let it be)..

My children did fairly well at school. With only 4As in the UPSR, I think Khaleeda could have done better but I told her, she has a long way to go… …as long as we’re breathing we’ll keep on learning even through mistakes.

Khaleeda and good friend, Intan...

My eldest, Haziq, like any other teenagers, can be rebellious at times. But I’m grateful he’s still on track. Boys will be boys…enough said.

Haziq posing with kasut and baju raya hehe...

Hafizy, my 10 year old son will be in a better class next year. I think he realized how disappointing it is to be moved to a lower class and he worked hard to achieve better results. Sometimes, a person should be taught a lesson and learn it the hard way. No nagging, babbling or pressuring involved…just make them learn as time goes by.

Hafizy posing masa raya kat NSembilan!

My youngest, Haqimi is going to be 3 next Feb. He was already potty trained at the age of 2 1/2, he is also our Mr Singing Sensation! (hehe..it's hillarious to hear him sing Ayat-ayat Cinta esp the chorus!!!) And it's amazing to see him developing his own personality and he talks like a 4 year old!!! Alhamdulillah....

Kimi wearing sampin ..!

Well, only God knows what’s in store for us in year 2009 (Insyaallah)..in the meantime, I’ll just stretch myself, let my hair down and imagite about a luxurious holiday in the Carribean…to get myself ready for what’s ahead!

I'm backkkkk.....

Did everything that needed to be done in just 7 days!!

Wed 3rd Dec 2008

Went shopping in Maju Junction KL – about 2-hour …not enough..! Must come again….

Checked out Munawwarah imitations at JTAR – nothing beats the original and the satisfaction of wearing the originals…We are wearing the PRADA of all tudungs, remember???

Thur 4th Dec 2008

Already in Ipoh preparing for my son’s circumcision – doctor’s appointment, caterer confirmation etc etc..

Fri 5th Dec 2008 (morning)

At last, Hafizy is a big boy…He did not cry and stayed calm during the process..Proud of you!

waiting for his turn....

"I'll be fine...peace!!"

Fri 5th Dec 2008 (evening)


Kenduri doa kesyukuran at mom’s house after Asar prayer. Glad everything went really well…


Fri 6th Dec – 9th Dec 2008…


Just enjoying my days at mom’s and tending my son who suddenly needs all the attention!!


Made laksa penang and serunding ayam for AidilAdha…My mom was not well, therefore my husband and I did all the cooking!

We did it..a perfect serunding!!!

Sorry no picture of Laksa Penang!!



And today 10th Dec 2008…back in the office….half-heartedly…!!!

At last...I'm taking my much needed 'break'!

hmmmm....I wish that's me!...

I will be on my annual leave starting tomorrow 3/12/08 till 9/12/08...I really need the long overdue 'break' from the office. I'm going home to Ipoh...celebrating the Aidil Adha and of course my son's circumcision on 6/12/08..then he'll spend the rest of the holidays with opah!

Well, to you guys...Selamat Hari Raya AidilAdha. I will try to update my blog during my 'cuti-cuti Malaysia"..till then, adios!

Saturday's Menu was....

Saturday 29/12/2008

The “fastest going” cake in my house is the chocolate cake. Since I have to work ½ day last Saturday (sucks!), I didn’t cook for lunch as we were also invited to a kenduri kesyukuran. We were expecting a guest on Saturday evening, so I started to bake the chocolate cake which was named DEVIL’s FOOD CAKE in the recipe at around 4 pm.

Image failed terribly as I used the hp camera (a cheapo one!)

• 1/2 cup butter
• 3 (1 ounce) squares unsweetened chocolate
• 2 cups white sugar
• 2 eggs
• 1 cup water
• 2 1/4 cups all-purpose flour
• 1 1/2 teaspoons baking soda
• 1/4 teaspoon salt
• 1/4 cup milk
• 1 teaspoon distilled white vinegar

Topping

9 ounce bittersweet chocolate
1 cup heavy whipped cream (bring to boil)

Pour the hot whipped cream to the chopped chocolate. Mix until smooth...!

At 5.30 pm I started to prepare dinner. Just simple beef curry, mix vegetables and fried chicken. Glad everybody enjoyed it.

My kids were snacking on the cake and said “Ma, nanti buat lagi kek ni, sedap!”

Mind your thoughts!!

I have read many articles about mind power. In one article from the NST on Thoughts Heal You, Kill You most cancer patients would have had traumatic experiences, six to 18 months before the onset. When your mind doesn’t want to be better, your body releases enzymes that make that thought a reality. It also says that when you adopt a positive attitude you find that everything is possible. Whatever you put in your mind and believe it is going to happen will happen!!

In my case, negative thoughts come first in every situation. Maybe I was born with it. The effect of negative thinking really stresses you out and this may cause illness. That is so true. I have experienced this. My body started to weaken. I had no strength or mood, so to speak, to go on just for that day. All I wanted to do was to lie in bed, and just dwell on whatever it was in my mind…I really hated being in that situation but it’s not easy to control our mind as it’s not easy to forget the traumatic experience. I talked to friends and even opt for online counseling. And of course as a Muslim, I turned to Allah SWT…I really did. I think one of the positive things that came out of it is, I performed the solat hajat, tahajud more often. Gradually, I gain back my “strength”. And I realized that I’m not strong as I thought I was. I’m just human with flaws and weaknesses. However, through that experience, I became more sensitive and wary. All these while I was so confident that it will never happen to me. Well, I was wrong.

So, I’m learning to stay positive and think positive things. Every negative thought that comes across my mind, I just push it away. I replace it with happy thoughts. It can be overwhelming sometimes as I’ve been mostly negative all my life…Hey, good things happen from one bad experience…I can live with that, can’t I? (see, now I’m beginning to think positive!)

Think Positive, Dear...Think Positive....

Legends of the Fall

In my profile, I put Legends of the Fall as my favourite movie...I love everything about it...the storyline, the actors and actresses, the scenes...I've watched it over and over again since 1994. It was the first movie I watched when I was in the USA. (It's nostalgic, at the same time...hehe... Even my husband likes it..he rarely watch a movie twice!haha..I guess he's kinda soft hearted type of guy, huh?)

Brad Pitt as Tristen


I recommend it to those with hearts like jello...you'll surely melt (especially with Brad Pitt as Tristen)..It's a movie worth watching...well, at least to me, it is....

Julia Ormon as Suzannah

Why do married men/women flirt?

I chose this topic upon request; and I find it quite interesting.

Not only married men flirt, married women are commonly doing it nowadays. I just don’t understand. Can flirting solve the marital problems or making them worst than ever? Or are they just doing it for fun? Do it for fun or whatever...just don't jeopardize your marriage..

Men with ego bigger than the Boeing 747 will never admit their mistakes, they will twist their words and makes it look as if it’s the wifey’s fault....Hello! (knock!knock!)...Admitting your mistakes, won’t kill (yeah, yeah..it will only kill your ego, but that’s just about it!)...

Remember the song by Rihanna...”Take A Bow”? I like the verse:

Don’t tell me you’re sorry cause you’re not
And baby when I know you’re only sorry you got caught....

If you’re lucky, he’ll say “I’m sorry”..., but I think deep inside he’s just sorry that he just couldn’t continue flirting..! (correct me if I’m wrong)!!



An article from msn.com

Why Married Men Flirt

Flirting is a often viewed as a way to meet potential mates. An overly flirtatious husband can cause several types of marriage problems. Often, the wife feels hurt, rejected, and alone.

The most common reasons why married men flirt:

he is having a midlife crisis

he is unhappy with wife

he is not sexually attracted to his wife

he likes the attention other women give him

he is bored with married life

he is insecure about self

it makes him feel better about himself

he needs to validate his attractiveness and sexuality

he thinks flirting is harmless

he is looking to have an affair

it is exciting

to meet emotional needs such as feeling liked, being popular, or being thought of as funny, entertaining, attractive, or sexy

as a passive-aggressive way of getting even with the wife. He may have felt rejected sexually and emotionally, so the flirting can be a message to the partner to shape up or risk losing the marriage

an attempt to get the wife's attention

I should have.........

Someone really got on my nerves at work today. But what did I do??? Nothing!!!....Arggghh...!!!This has always been my problem....I got home feeling sorry for myself...

These words have been playing again and again in my head since afternoon..

"why didn't I say something, why didn't I just spit it out, get it all out of my chest...???!!!!"

I don't know..really...I don't have the answer. I just sat there and hear this person mumbling to herself (she was mad at me)...and I just kept quiet. Hello! She has been on my nerves from day one and the comments I get from almost everyone who deals with her at work....make me realize that she is not an easy person to work with...Remember my article about the annoying co-worker?? Well, her attitude really dampened my mood today.....and finally she came to me and act as if nothing had happened....and me? As a soft-hearted (tak kena tempat, sometimes) person...I cooled down inside.

I wish I could have just told her off just now...If she thinks she has a "bad-mouth" (she admits it!)..well wait till she sees me "explode" one of these days...when? I don't know...Am I being too nice? Hmm...

I get stunned when somebody is rude to me! I just couldn't act back at that particular moment! But afterwards, on my way back home or when I'm alone....I'll fight back by screaming inside and tell myself again and again "I should have said this, I should have done that..."!!!!

What is wrong with me???...or NOTHING IS WRONG with me...???(huh?)

"Patience is the best virtue"

"Sabar adalah separuh daripada iman"

But one day...I'm gonna fight back....one ... fine ... day!!

BTW....I've done things that make me regret later on too ...such as ...... naming my blog "mrsvogue"...haha...(what on earth was I thinking???)

Love Our Parents, Let them Rest.......

A file picture.....

I saw this lady (in her late 50s or early 60s) at a store last week. She was with 3 little children. One of them, a boy, around 5 years old was running around the store like nobody’s business. I guess that lady was babysitting her grandchildren. She didn’t even bother to stop the boy from running around, she was tired, obviously. The other two, were girls aged between 2 and 4 (I think).

I wonder why some people let their elderly parents babysit? Haven’t we ‘burdened’ them enough? I hope I will be resting, able to attend religious classes, recite the Al-Quran and do what ever is necessary to make up with whatever I left behind in my younger days. With all the hectic, mind and body challenging younger years, I need a rest and a piece of mind at that stage of life.

I do hope my children are considerate enough not to let me babysit their children. Of course I will say “yes”, if they ask me “mom, can you babysit my child?” Any mother would say “yes” to her child’s request. Mothers - for their children…they will do anything....

However, as adult we should let them rest...they have worked hard for us for many, many years. Find other options, these are our children…if we are ready to bring them into the world, we must be ready to carry out our responsibilities…finding a good babysitter is one of them!

I know it’s hard to trust someone to take good care of our children…but this is one of the ‘challenges’ of a working mom. We have to face it but please, let our parents rest....

Sunday's Recipe

My children love cake. So, when I found this simple carrot cake recipe in the net, I just have to try it for dessert!

Sunday's Menu (23rd November 2008):

Nasi Tomato and Ayam Masak Merah + Acar Mentah (my version) for lunch.

The carrot cake turned out great! The only thing missing was the pecan..so I substitute it with the ever-in-the-fridge mix fruit (usually used for making fruit cake).

I alter a little bit of this recipe that is the amount of baking powder and baking soda: 1 teaspoon each instead of 2 (original recipe). Just make sure that the carrot is coarsely grated. I used the traditional grater but if you have a food processor, it's even better.

Don't have cinnamon powder? Simple! Just crush the cinnamon stick in the "lesung batu"..then blend the particles (using dry blender)....Taraaaaa....done!!

And for the topping : Since I don't have any cream cheese, I decided not to follow the recipe for topping as in the recipe below. Instead, I make this simple whipped cream topping:

1 cup Whipped Cream (beat until fluffy)
Then add 2 tablespoons of sugar (continue beating until fluffy)

.....minus the topping....

INGREDIENTS (Nutrition)

4 eggs
1 1/4 cups vegetable oil
2 cups white sugar
2 teaspoons vanilla extract
2 cups all-purpose flour
1 teaspoon baking soda
1 teaspoon baking powder
1/2 teaspoon salt
2 teaspoons ground cinnamon
3 cups grated carrots
1 cup chopped pecans

Topping/Frosting:

1/2 cup butter, softened
8 ounces cream cheese, softened
4 cups confectioners' sugar
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
1 cup chopped pecans

Haqimi enjoying the carrot cake!

"Want some?"

ULTIMATE SATISFACTION:

When my husband and children said "Sedap...!!!" .

Next week's dessert: Plan to bake an orange cake! (if time and mood permit..ehemm!)

It's The Month of Haj

Let's pray that all pilgrims from around the world are safe, healthy and strong to face the ultimate test from Allah SWT in their hopes to obtain Haji Mabrur. It's not going to be easy ..only iman and takwa will get you through this "challenging" moment.

To my Pak Cu and Acu of Ipoh, Perak who will be leaving Malaysia to Jeddah on Sunday 23rd November 2008, you will always be in our prayers. Insyaallah, great people like both of you will be in Allah's Guidance and Protection always.

Congratulations, you've been chosen as guests to this holy place, a special invitation from Allah SWT..

Insyallah, we'll meet again.


WASALAM...

INFO: Tanda mendapat haji mabrur menurut ulama:


Ternampak perubahan pada sikap, wajah, akhlak dan cara hidup.


Amal ibadah bertambah baik dan tidak cuai melakukannya berbanding sebelumnya.


Sifat jahat dan keji seperti tamak, hasad, dengki, riak, takbur, bakhil, angkuh, membazir, boros dan sebagainya terus ditinggalkan.


Menjadi seorang yang berakhlak baik seperti bertawaduk, merendah diri, tolong menolong, dermawan, bercakap benar, amanah, jujur, bersedekah dan akhlak terpuji.


Ibadah haji memberi kesan positif terhadap sikap dan tingkah laku dari segi perjuangan, kegigihan, keadilan dan sebagainya.


Selalu mengerjakan ibadah puasa dan puasa sunnah dan ibadah lain.


Seseorang pernah berzina, minum arak dan sebagainya terus meninggalkannya sama ada dosa kecil dan dosa besar.


Kalau dulu dia sering mendedahkan aurat tetapi kini dia terus menutup auratnya sebagaimana dituntut oleh ajaran agama.


Seseorang yang baik akan bertambah baik lagi dalam urusan hidup seharian.

Get Your Act Right!!!!!

Some adults can act worst than children. In some cases, well-educated people with good religious background can even do things that are unexpected.

I have ‘seen’ emails, chats from so-called ‘educated’ people….which I can say….unbelievably embarrassing! I said to myself “And these are the people who are supposed to be the role model to our children. These are the human beings sent by the government overseas or local universities, to be educated and give back to the community”…

NOT ALL are acting this way, only a few are tarnishing their own reputations.

Yes, I agree …they are just human. However, these people should think far better than most of us. They should live up to their standards. We look up to lecturers, for instance. And when they write such mails, emails or chats, they are putting themselves at par with the immoral group of people.

Why am I babbling? Just to make a note: I don’t care how highly educated a person is, how well she/he can speak English or Arabic OR how religious she thinks she is …..…but if this person puts herself in a disgraceful manner and feels no remorse about it whatsoever, SHE is nothing to me!!!

I have accidently read cybersex chat IMs, also witnessed infidelity, met selfish-un-afraid of Allah’s punishment (nauzubillah) human beings...well, these so-called highly educated people are actually just adding numbers to the population! Nothing else....

Am I expecting too much from them? Of course, I am! Not everyone is lucky enough to be highly educated and highly talented! So, better get your act right!

So, I’m grateful of being me! An ordinary girl next door who at least has her dignity…and proud of it! (Alhamdulillah and May Allah guide me and my love ones through this journey of life..Aminnnn)

I SALUTE YOU TEACHERS, DOCTORS, ENGINEERS...KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!

Welcoming 2009

Wow, next year (May) I will be 41! (just can’t believe how time flies…!)

Let me see…hmm…what have I went through in my life journey since 1968..(don’t worry, it’s NOT gonna be a novel..!)

It’s more like “I will now tell you about myself”…(whether u like or not..haha!)

Born in Ipoh Chinese Maternity Hospital in May 1968. Resided at Greentown, Ipoh (Greentown is now a business center in Ipoh. The whole housing area has been demolished...My house, I think is somewhere at the tapak of Greentown Mall!) Then, move to Taman Meru, Jelapang, Ipoh (my mom is still there)..Yes, nearby the accident prone area of Jelapang Toll. Now the toll plaza has already been relocated, but accidents still happen..…Again, don’t blame on the toll plaza…blame it on the ever-rushing Malaysian drivers!

Went to Ipoh Main Convent School from Kindergarten till Form Five! (After that went to St Michael’s Institution for Form 6, which I stayed only for 1 month!)

Then off to ITM Jln Othman, Petaling Jaya (famoused for aweks cun)…Well, I’m definitely NOT one of them (uhuk!).

My first job was at UMW Toyota, Petaling Jaya. Also worked at BP Oil Menara Maybank and Perak Hanjoong Simen (Perak).

In 1994 followed husband to Columbus OHIO. Had a great time there! I just loved it! Worked as part time Teaching Asstistant at Ohio State University (OSU) Child Care Center, F&B Asst at OSU Hotel & Convention Center.(Cannot work full time – had a 3 year old and a new born baby to take care!)

Came back 1997 became full-time housewife and a year later moved to Batu Pahat, Johor where my husband continued his Masters Degree at UTM’s Branch .

2000 Moved to Pasir Gudang, Johor where hubby teaches at Politeknik JB @ Pasir Gudang, Johor.

2001 I started working with Malaysia Marine & Heavy Engineering Sdn Bhd (formerly known as MSE) and became a permanent staff in 2005.

I am so blessed to be able to meet, work with different people from various countries inside and outside Malaysia. I learn a lot through my lifetime, priceless experience.

Hmm…I have no complaint…(I'd be lying if I say I'm 100% satisfied with my life)..but I will take one day at a time, appreciate every breath I take and loving every minute and everyone who is important to me!

WELCOME 2009…!INSYAALLAH

Emotional Affairs!!!

With all the latest technologies around us today ie the internet and sms...emotional affairs or infidelity happens everyday. So, use the thing in your head when using the net like YM etc...

Blame it on yourself if you let this happen to you! YOU just don't know how to use these technologies wisely...(membazir karrennnn jer!!!)

The following behavioral signs are the top 10 signs of emotional infidelity.

If any of these ring a bell in regards to your relationship, perhaps you are not as close to your partner as you should be:

You have little or no sex.

Partner is always too busy or tired.

You have petty arguments.

You feel like you don’t have anything in common any more.

One of you is no longer attracted to the other.

Partner spends unusually long periods of time on cell phone or computer.

Partner suddenly becomes hypercritical about your appearance.

Partner becomes secretive or defensive when questioned about their behavior.

Partner loses interest in relationship or family activities.

Partner stays on computer very late at night after you have retired.

Partner secures their computer in a locked area or with passwords you don’t have access to.

So, gals! Be on a look out!!!

A True Friend?

I don’t have many friends. Well, I don’t think I need many friends; all I need is a true friend.

Do you really know who your true friend is? To me a true friend :

1. Goes all out to help you in any way they can.


2. Is on your side no matter what!
   
3. Keeps your secret, and keeps it really well!


4. Symphatised with you and congratulate you, sincerely.


5. Is never jealous of your achievements. Envy, yes…but not jealousy.


6. From every now and then, will ask “how are you” or “why are so quiet lately”?


7. Shares with you their good and bad news (this means that you are special to them!)


8. Never judge you in just one passing incident!


9. Knows you well even though you act like a #($*#*&*!!, sometimes!


10. “What you see is what you get”…now, that’s a true friend…!

Did I miss anything else??

"The" Song

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NzKbG0Ny9CE

Everytime I hear Rossa's Ayat-Ayat Cinta, at that particular moment, it's just me and this song...everything else just freeze!(sigh....)

Ayat- Ayat Cinta by Rossa

Desir pasir di padang tandus

Segersang pemikiran hati
Terkisah ku di antara cinta yang rumit

Bila keyakinanku datang
Kasih bukan sekadar cinta
Pengorbanan cinta yang agung
Ku pertaruhkan

Reff:
Maafkan bila ku tak sempurna
Cinta ini tak mungkin ku cegah
Ayat-ayat cinta bercerita
Cintaku padamu

Bila bahagia mulai menyentuh
Seakan ku bisa hidup lebih lama
namun harus ku tinggalkan cinta
ketika ku bersujud

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Ku pertaruhkan

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